In practice, grooming relies on secrecy. Groomers use secrets to bind their child victims to them, starting with small secrets and working up to harmful ones, like abusive behaviors. Predators often use bribery (“I’ll let you stay up late and watch TV if you let me do this.”), threats (“I’ll hurt you if you tell.”), and withdrawal of affection (“I won’t like you if you tell anyone the truth.”) to keep children from disclosing abuse. Families should establish a “no secrets” rule, and never ask children to keep secrets from their parents or trusted adults. For more information, read the VIRTUS® article “The Grooming Process” at lacatholics.org/did-you-know.